Hurt........

Haven't we all experienced hurt in our own ways? When we even sit down for a few minutes and think about the different experiences that have caused hurt in our lives, we react in different ways. Some people avoid the topic completely, as they dealt with the hurt by shutting themselves off from that aspect. They may have cut off the people, closed off from them, or may have taken themselves out of the environment that was causing the hurt to eliminate the feeling from their lives completely. However, when thinking about the experiences with those people the hurt is still very real. It may simmer down over time, may not be as significant as it was earlier, but one is weary of that person now, one is closed to that person/people in some way.

However, there is also another way to deal with hurt which brings freedom from it........brings in love and compassion for the people who may have caused the hurt. The love for the people increases, however there is now no compulsion or attachment or expectations associated with them. This doesn't mean that involvement is less in any way.........it is just that the affect of their behaviour does not touch you anymore, for your involvement with them is unconditional. For this I feel one has to let one self feel the hurt......not cut the situation/people out that cause the hurt.......but rather embrace them and the hurt they cause with open arms. And then slowly, as one observes the actions that cause pain to them, one observes one's own behaviour and feelings around those people more closely........one becomes more in control of one's own feelings. One slowly realizes that these people came into ones life for a very important reason..........to teach them to love truly unconditionally, to teach them to enjoy each and every person for who they were without expectations, to interact freely with life.......they brought a freedom to one's soul that one becomes thankful for. And in that thankfulness, hurt no more remains hurt but changes into a beautiful experience called life.